wedding bells a-ringing & when's my turn;

My good friend of eight years is getting married this Wednesday! Menglan and I have known each other since primary 6, and we became close friends because we had to do a school project together, and later on, when we were in the same class during our secondary one and two years.

When I was in primary five, I've heard lots of interesting stories about her from other classes. Stories like how fierce she was, and how she does not let anybody cross her, and therefore, my impression of her was really bad. So, when we got into the same class in primary six, I strike her off immediately as a friend! Haha. That was one of my earliest lessons in life; do not be quick to judge, and that every story has its bias.

She became a really good friend of mine, and we got closer in my lower secondary days. Yes, she's fierce, no doubt about that, but she's definitely not a bully. She stands up for her friends and I would think her best quality is her loyalty. We formed a large clique back in school, about ten or so girls from my class, and we self termed our clique as a family. Menglan was my son, and Jingwen was her wife. That makes Jingwen my daughter-in-law! Haha. Those were carefree days indeed.

I remember once, another good friend of mine, Yuting, got into trouble and was suspended from school. It was because of a really stupid thing. She got into an argument with another boy from my class, and the boy hit her with a rolled up newspaper. She retaliated by hitting the guy back with her newspaper on his head. Lo and behold! The boy cried and ran to complain to the principal! And the principal meted out her punishment, deciding that suspension from school was the best for a secondary one girl, who was firstly assaulted by the boy, and who was probably defending herself against him. The whole suspension thing was obviously lame. Imagine sentencing a pickpocket to twenty years of prison and five strokes of cane.

So, during our chinese lesson (we had this super irritating and unreasonable chinese teacher eeew!), the teacher was going on and on about how Yuting deserved it. Can you imagine the injustice the girls felt, especially when the boy was sitting at his desk, with a supposedly innocent look plastered on his face? Disgusting. Menglan could not take it anymore, and she blasted at the teacher. Of course, a war of words ensued between them both, and I remembered being caught between dismal and awe. Well, in then end, Menglan was being sent to stand at the back of the class, and she was holding back her tears of frustration with great determination. This is one of those times when you know how much Menglan values her friends, because she would still stand up for them, even at her own expense.

I know the respect her peers have for her, boys and girls alike. While her strong character may push some guys away, it also attracted a long queue of suitors. Haha. And I am just so happy for her that she has finally found the right guy who would love and treasure her.

When I first saw Shaoyong and her together, I notice the way they would hold onto each other and would talk to each other. And it was then that I knew how in love they were, and it gave me this very warm and fuzzy feeling inside. So even though I was taken aback by her wedding announcement (and was in a state of pleasant surprise for the next few days), I was simply overjoyed and very excited for her.

When your peers get married, it will be like "Oh no, I cant believe it!" and then you will start pondering and discussing the time when its your turn. I've been through different phases in my life; phase one, where my dream is to get married to a great man and start a wonderful family with him and have lots of kids. Phase two, where I thought staying single is probably for the best; Phase three, not marriage, no thanks, with strings attached and all; cohabitation would be ideal. But of course, I've walked right out of phase three and will not be going back there. Haha.

I've been thinking of the kind of man I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. And guess what? I think if that person came to pass, I would have married... myself! I want someone who loves soccer and supports Liverpool, whose ideal form of date is outdoor sports, like cycling, rollar-blading, and exploring Singapore by bus and on foot. Who wants to visit India and Africa for his honeymoon. Who is equally crazy about Harry Potter, and who is equally crazy about having five children too! Whose love language is quality time and physical touch. Who loves reading, and enjoys singing and dancing! The list goes on, and its basically myself in Mr. form! Haha. Anyway, whatever is it, I'll just leave it to God's hands. Chances are, I'd get married to someone who is a total opposite of me, because they say, unlike poles attract!

As for Menglan, gonna miss her when she leaves for the States with Shaoyong for two years. And I hope her garden wedding this Wednesday will be a perfect one for the both of them. It is going to be the start of a wonderful life together, and I cant wait for little menglans and shaoyongs in the future! :D

Footnote: I have not yet picked out a pink dress for her themed wedding :(

turtle,
15nov10,1114pm